Ok maybe that is a little harsh but I am having a hard time understanding what a man sees in a woman young enough to be his child or neice. Ok I KNOW what they SEE. Men are visual creatures blah blah blah, and the women their age are not keeping themselves up blah blah blah. There is just no valid explanation that anyone could tell me for it to make sense for a 40 year old man to be attracted to a 20 year old woman. Yes she is legal, yes she got body but she is a child. Some would say, she is mature for her age, I would say he is immature. Some would argue that it has gone on for years, so has genital mutilation.
What I want to talk about is What a Young, fit attractive woman sees in an old man ? Do the men know that it is NOT love ?
PS
when I did a search on bing for OLD MAN YOUNG WOMAN all I could find was Porn IJS
The only thing that matters is what's good for you and how you feel about each other. Let me tell you something, when you're alone late at night in bed just you and her under the covers, that's all that matters. You gotta do what your heart tells you to do. Let me tell you something' right now. You're only allowed three great women in your lifetime. They come along like the great fighters, every ten years. Rocky Marciano, Sugar Ray Robinson, Joe Louis. Sometimes you get'em all at once. Me? I had my three when i was 16. That happens. What are you gonna do? That's the way it goes, you know? Tell you right now. See this girl? Maybe this girl, she put wind in your sails. Maybe she's your first great one. #bronxtale
I have always had a lot of male friends. Not because I did not like women but because my female BFFs went off to college and I stayed home for college as did my Male BFFs. With that being said my 20s were very informative and I got to know MEN from the inside out. This is part of the reason why my homeboys refer to me as a guy with tits.
My guy friends varied from completely faithful to down right whoreish and the women that they dealt with always wanted to know what was up with me. Most were cool but some were down right scared and insecure. One of the guys actually married his controller and none of his friends were invited to the wedding. That marriage lasted all of 6 months.
I say all this to say, I have recently been unfriended by a grown ass man who is in love with a woman who does not want him to have friends from his PAST in his life. (Yes we were platonic) His family members do not hear from him anymore and he has left all social networks. I have always known women who disappear when they are in relationships, I do not keep those women as friends. I have tried to wrap my mind around what women think when they BAN their men from having friends. I have never seen this scenario end well and I cannot fully respect a man or woman who alienates their friend and family for a "relationship"
DEAR LADIES:
1. Do NOT alienate your boyfriends friends, whether male or female you do not want them to HATE you. If they do, they will surely B the ones to HOOK him up with someone else.
2. Just because he is not ALLOWED to go out with his boys and you think you got him on lock does not mean that you WON. Trust and believe he will get sick of your controlling ways and as soon as yall break up his crew will throw a party.
3. There are some things that you should want to do with your friends and he should feel the same way. Spending ALL your time together is NOT healthy.
4. A Man will do what he wants to do when he wants to do it and his FRIENDS cannot make him cheat on you. If he is faithful and his friends Love & Respect him then they will Love and Respect you just because he does
5. He is NOT your X. Let that man live
#THEMESSAGE
There is nothing about living an authentic life that we do not already know. All the information and light bulb moments that we have are just pieces of relearned information that we are being reminded of. We have all had advice given to us that we ignored and then we hear it later and it triggers us to take action.
I have been given advice by various people over the years and the consistent thing that has always been said is that I am too open. I let too many people into my life and my hear and my business. I have friends who are skeptical of ANYONE who tries to enter my life because so many fake friends have come and gone over the years.
I recently re-watched some Def Poetry Jam episodes and Eryka Badu's Poem struck a nerve. SHE IS RIGHT, Rashida is Right My Daughter is RIGHT. I have always allowed people in my life on equal ground. We either COOL or we Not. I did not separate friends from fans or peers from enemies.
THIS TIME I GET IT THOUGH and I have heard this Poem many times before and people have told me this many times before, and I KNOW THIS and always have.. BUT I LIVE IT NOW.
Thanks Erykah
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